Then and now...
I was thinking about how in the past women were the heart of the family. They cooked, cleaned. took care of the house and took care of the kids without any help. They seemed to have done it all without missing a step. How did they do it?I wonder if they complained about how their husbands didn't do anything at all. I mean not only did they do it all but they did without the help of all the new mashines that we have. No dishwasher, no washing machine just elbow grease and alot of hard work. They also didn't have all of the distractions of phones, internet, TV, radio and just everything that seems to pull you away from whatever you are doing.
I love being a SAHM but I can't seem to get everything done... and most days I can't seem to get anything done. So as I was cleaning the kitchen today I realized that I have to learn how to do it. My mother was a single mom and though she cleaned I had to get out of the way and it was not a daily thing but a once a week thing. I never learned how to clean as part of a daily routine. I never saw others being SAHM's. In the past women where taught by example and saw mothers mothering, learned to cook, sew, garden and take care of a household. With women going to work now we have lost this and the SAHM's of the future need to learn it all by themselves.
Look at breastfeeding... not long ago in history women breastfed without a problem not only because they haad no choice but because they had always been exposed to it and saw how it was done through this exposure. Not only would a new breastfeeding mom have seen what breastfeeding was but she also had all the suport from all the women around her who had done the same...
So as I cleaned my kitchen, I understood that in our time we don't only have to do it all but we have to learn how to do it also. I am so thankful for my husband in this respect, he does so much around here but I feel so guilty that I don't do more. However, I am trying to do my best and hopefully I will be there to set the example for future generations.
I love being a SAHM but I can't seem to get everything done... and most days I can't seem to get anything done. So as I was cleaning the kitchen today I realized that I have to learn how to do it. My mother was a single mom and though she cleaned I had to get out of the way and it was not a daily thing but a once a week thing. I never learned how to clean as part of a daily routine. I never saw others being SAHM's. In the past women where taught by example and saw mothers mothering, learned to cook, sew, garden and take care of a household. With women going to work now we have lost this and the SAHM's of the future need to learn it all by themselves.
Look at breastfeeding... not long ago in history women breastfed without a problem not only because they haad no choice but because they had always been exposed to it and saw how it was done through this exposure. Not only would a new breastfeeding mom have seen what breastfeeding was but she also had all the suport from all the women around her who had done the same...
So as I cleaned my kitchen, I understood that in our time we don't only have to do it all but we have to learn how to do it also. I am so thankful for my husband in this respect, he does so much around here but I feel so guilty that I don't do more. However, I am trying to do my best and hopefully I will be there to set the example for future generations.
posted by paxye at 5/31/2005 12:17:00 p.m.
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